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So to me it is not luck, chance, are the way things happen, it was the purpose of our lives, we just had to find our way to each other. This wonderful nurse had a special needs son at home so she did understand A. more and really connected to her. She was our nurse when she worked and A. called when she said good bye to her when it was time to leave. Milly (our nurse) also got teary eyed and told A. that she was the best and her favorite patient that she has ever had.

It is still so strange is see people react to adoption and the wide range of emotions it brings out in people. To me adoption is a very precious gift that some are blessed to experience and I feel very protective of adoption. I am learning not to be so over protective with my gift of adoption. I do still struggle when someone says something that hurts or I feel is wrong, I now try to breath deep, try to hear what they are asking not necessarily what is coming out of their mouth, which is not necessarily what they are meaning. This was a little unnerving experience for me with being totally exposed as both of us having been adopted to everyone, I tend to be very private with my life. It was a good learning and insightful experience for me. I also believe that A. and I being adopted allowed some to ask some questions about adoption maybe will give them insight in adoption is love, good, a honor, and it is wanted.

I wonder how people get their feelings about adoption. With the older population, are they just reacting to the pass images of adoption, due to the harsh look towards unwed birth mothers pushed and pressured to give up their babies? The one thing I have never understood is the negative feelings from older people towards the adoptees, and causes their strong feelings and opinions. The good thing about adoption in today’s world, it is more open and not viewed as a shameful thing for all involved as in the past.

I am still amazed there was such an interest because we both were adopted!!