Anytime you have a loss or go through some sort of grief it takes time to move beyond it or find some peace. The journey of working through your grief will be completely unique to each person. Allowing yourself the time to work through your feelings is very important. Something that may work for one person may not work for you.

We all have to find our own way in working through our grief. Yes, it does take work to get beyond it or find some peace. It can become easy to sit and let your grief consume you while taking over your life. As I have been dealing with things with my mom (adoptive) I have to fight letting it consume me and my life becoming all about the loss.

This is one thing that I understand that I probably will not work through in this situation. I cannot imagine it not haunting or brothering me to some point the rest of my life. My goal is finding some peace in the situation that will allow me to move on with my life. This does not work every day and some days are hardier than others but it helps keeps us out of that deep dark lonely place of being consumed.

The past is a dangerous place to find yourself living and thinking of most of the time. We cannot change the past but we have control over our futures. We live in the now and look to the future while visiting the past.

While I find myself feeling consumed with the past and my grief I will make myself think of one good thing that happened during the time I am thinking of. Focusing on things that make you happy or bring you joy can keep you from being consumed with you grief. This does not mean that you will not have some hard days overflowing with your grief.