There is good and bad in everything in life. When an adoptive parent turns out to not be a great or even a bad parent or an adoption has negative outcomes it seems to lead many people's thoughts and opinions to adoption is negative in general. Some people believe that there are only a selected few adoptees that feel positive towards adoption. That is not necessarily the case.

Granted there are some not so great and even terrible adoptive parents but also there are a huge number of biological parents that also have major problems. The huge differences are that we do not call for doing away with parenting but adoptive parenting is fair game. There is not anything in this world that is perfect and without fault. It does not mean we are running around fighting against it.

There is not an answer to why some children and adopted children get great parents while others do not. Some call it chance, luck of the draw while others claim destiny. Maybe it is all of them or none of them. I do not know why I ended up with great adoptive parents while other adoptees did not. I wish other adoptees that ended up with the not so great adoptive parents could have experienced my life as adoptee, but that is not how things work.

Every child whether birth or adopted deserves to feel loved, cherished, and wanted. I know that in the past, some adoptive parents choose to adopt because of how it would make them appear. To some adopted children they were just decorations to adoptive parents. I do not think this is something that happens as it once did. I believe for the most part adoptive parents are building their families this way through love and not just to be a parent to a child because something is lacking in their lives.

I have been asked this question throughout my life and also from a reader. I do not know how to rationalize how I ended up with great adoptive parents.

More reading:

Adoption, Adoptees and Reality

Sunshine and Lollipops

Adoption Good or Bad?