It seems as though what made it to the bottom of the mountain after my avalanche of words trying to clarify truly adoption related ‘issues’ and how well the majority of adoptees are adjusted (or not), was that my perspective marginalizes and robs adoptees and birth parents who are traumatized by their adoption experience and/or ‘working through’ their problems from the same. Apparently, I am insensitive with completely unfair, judgmental and unrealistic perceptions of the ‘issues’ plaguing adoptees. There are those convinced that I am anti-birth parent because of what they believe I have written and that I am in complete denial about how deeply scarred I am from having been adopted.

These same people are convinced that I want to put adoption back in the closet and make it a taboo word rather than a perpetual dinner conversation.

In short, rumor has it that I am quite an adoption monster. (Could it be because I was adopted… oh dear.)

Well, rumor can keep it.
I went back through and read my blogs. I read the reactions and comments. My conscience is clear. And in my writing, my thoughts were clear and concrete and in no way indicative of the sweeping perceptions noted above. I have also read other blogs that were direct responses to what I had written. Although most of the time my
blogs were not mentioned outright, there was enough paraphrasing and quotations-without-quotation marks that there could be no confusion about the relationship to my “Issues and Issues” series. The amazing thing is that these “responses” are still flowing out of some sources even today! Some people may claim not to agree with what I have written, but by their actions it is clear that I struck a note very close to their ear… and it is ringing.

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