Some questions were raised from another blog that I have done. So I will post each question and answer below.

You said that you fear "hurting" your dad by raising the topic with him. Has he said anything to give you the impression that talking about the adoption would hurt him, or is this something you pick up on in his body language? Or does he rarely raise the topic itself, giving the impression that the topic might hurt him? I am asking for my own situation because, as an adoptive mother, talking about my son's adoption is not painful. I would hate for him to not talk to me about it to "protect" me from being hurt when; truly, the subject would not hurt me.

There was not anything that my dad did that made me feel this way. I was raised at a time and place that adoption was not talked about openly. I do not think parents at that time knew enough about adoption or how to deal with the issues of adoption. Could things have been different if adoption was more open as it is now? Possibly, it could have made things different, adoptive parents being more open about adoption or adopted children more comfortable talking about their adoption. What happened did happen and what it is, is just that.

When you love someone and they love you back, you do not want to hurt that person in anyway. Fear of hurting him, was probably more about me and my feelings, not his. Maybe it has to do more with us protecting the ones we love.

I know that any child wants to feel truly loved and cared for. They want that bond with a parent, the unconditional love and knowing that someone will always be there for you. So, when an adopted child develops this kind of relationship, could this make it harder for them to talk about their adoption to their adoptive parents? Could this have some bearing on ones willingness to discuss adoption?

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