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]]> http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/sharing-a-journey-while-keeping-some-pri/comment-page-1#comment-488 rdaldous@yahoo.com Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:19:58 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/28/sharing-a-journey-while-keeping-some-pri#comment-488 I was nearly five years old when I was adopted. I always knew that I was adopted, but that is the only thing my adoptive parents were open about. I feel like my identity was stolen. My name was changed from Bonnie to Anne and somewhere in the process I felt like I lost my identity. I was never allowed to talk about my past or the people in it. If I did talk about it I was told I had made it up or seen it on television. I was sexually abused before I was adopted and I was never offered any help dealing with the issues from my past. Later in life I tried to commit suicide and was never offered any help dealing with that issue, either. I was basically told that being adopted was in my best interest, but I always felt like it was in the best interest of everyone else involved and that no one really cared about what was in my best interest. All of my parents are now dead and there are still a lot of unresolved issues from my past. I have a good relationship with God and have been in Al-Anon which have been a great help to me. My adopted mother would tell anyone asking her about adopting and older child not to do it because they had such a bad experience with me, like it was my fault. Well, my experience wasn't any better than theirs was. I never felt like I belonged and we didn't bond. Once I was grown and married, all my adopted relatives acted like I wasn't a part of the family. My adopted brother molested me from when I was 11 til I was 14. He denies that he molested me because it was oral sex and I consented. It never occured to me that I could refuse. That had never worked in the past when he wanted something. I told my parents about it when I was almost out of high school and they didn't get me any help with that either. I'd like to know exactly what their responsibility to me was. I am not putting down adoption of any child of any age, but I hope that today's adopting parents are more loving and responsible to their adoptees than mine were.~Anne I was nearly five years old when I was adopted. I always knew that I was adopted, but that is the only thing my adoptive parents were open about. I feel like my identity was stolen. My name was changed from Bonnie to Anne and somewhere in the process I felt like I lost my identity. I was never allowed to talk about my past or the people in it. If I did talk about it I was told I had made it up or seen it on television. I was sexually abused before I was adopted and I was never offered any help dealing with the issues from my past. Later in life I tried to commit suicide and was never offered any help dealing with that issue, either. I was basically told that being adopted was in my best interest, but I always felt like it was in the best interest of everyone else involved and that no one really cared about what was in my best interest. All of my parents are now dead and there are still a lot of unresolved issues from my past. I have a good relationship with God and have been in Al-Anon which have been a great help to me. My adopted mother would tell anyone asking her about adopting and older child not to do it because they had such a bad experience with me, like it was my fault. Well, my experience wasn’t any better than theirs was. I never felt like I belonged and we didn’t bond. Once I was grown and married, all my adopted relatives acted like I wasn’t a part of the family. My adopted brother molested me from when I was 11 til I was 14. He denies that he molested me because it was oral sex and I consented. It never occured to me that I could refuse. That had never worked in the past when he wanted something. I told my parents about it when I was almost out of high school and they didn’t get me any help with that either. I’d like to know exactly what their responsibility to me was. I am not putting down adoption of any child of any age, but I hope that today’s adopting parents are more loving and responsible to their adoptees than mine were.~Anne

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