[Continued from HERE.]

If you are an international adoptee and feel you would have been better off in your own country, DO go there, but don’t stay in fancy hotels or with expats. Go live in a village and study the language. Get a real sense of the life that may have been yours. If you can, don’t do this for a couple of weeks, do it for a year, at least. The great news is if you really feel that is where you belong, you can find a way to stay… and if not, you don’t have to do so… you can always come back to the States. The experience might even leave you feeling like going back to America is going ‘home’ for the first time in your life… or not.

So here we are, at the end of the end of the series, at the end of the end of my post script to you, my fellow adoptees.

I think I need to clarify one itsy bitsy spidery kind of thing: while I can write all this in a few hours flat, I in no way think that moving on and finding balance will happen overnight, nor do I think it is a snap (insert sound effect of snapping fingers in your mind, please). I am also not trying to rob you of your right to feel however you feel. What I am trying to do is encourage you to let yourself have a much happier life than you may have had so far. I am hoping to give you, via the magic of cyber-osmosis, a gentle nudge in the butt of your issues so that maybe they will leave you alone … and you won’t ask them to come again any time soon out of misplaced politeness.

Besides, there are stacks, piles of ‘issues’ waiting in line to trouble you … it’s just not fair to keep the old ones past their ‘best used by’ date. Not fair to those eager new issues and neurosis ready and standing-by … and way beyond not fair to you, yourself and you.

In your journey through all of your emotional land mines, I wish you more than luck, but wisdom … I also wish you the spiritual presence of a mine-sniffing canine companion to guide you on your way.