We may add one more child. I do let the boys give thier judgement on the kids that I find on the internet. I showed the older one a really neat 10 year old, my son’s reaction was, “Well, you can’t adopt him.” He went on, “Look at his hair, he’s a redhead, we are all blond and blue eyed, Dah.” That really wasn’t my decision making model.

I showed him another boy about a month later, and he said “He’s one of us, He looks just like Steven, He’s OK.” This one had brown hair. Kids have their own ways of seeing ties and commonality, and I don’t think it is about logic. John