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Siblings’ forming a life long relationship
through adoption is a beautiful thing to watch grow and blossom. This is a very important thing for the adoptees and biological children to bond and make memories. Some siblings struggle with making and maintaining relationships with their siblings. Parents can be a great help helping siblings bond.
The truth is that it is not always easy adding children of different ages, backgrounds and needs to an already made family. By no means do we have a perfect family. We have been blessed with three adopted children along with our biological child that have the typical sibling relationships.
Everyone asks if all my children get along and do we have issues with our biological daughter. They fuss and fight with each other just as families do. To watch them interact, you can definitely see the love they share. It can be as simple as all four of them running through the house trying to find each other’s shoes so they can all go outside or the big deal of trying to teach the younger ones to ride a tricycle or bike.
We enjoyed the beach together as a family for our first family vacation. It was hilarious watching our little ones trail in behind our oldest daughter following her into the ocean. When a wave would knock the little one down she popped right back up to follow big sister. She just could not understand that the water was too deep for her. The high light of her trip was to get to ride sister’s boogie board with her.
As an adoptee, I cannot even put into words how I enjoy watching my children (adopted and biological) grow, bond and laugh together. The memories they are making I feel will cement their relationship as they continue to grow stronger every day.
It takes work, time and experience for a family to bind and make lasting family ties.
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It was tough getting my two youngest to connect. Today they are 17 and 19. The youngest came home at 13, and it was as though there was a wall between them. Finally after three years, they were connected, today they are very close, it is neat to watch. Socially they are together a great deal.
We may add one more child. I do let the boys give thier judgement on the kids that I find on the internet. I showed the older one a really neat 10 year old, my son’s reaction was, “Well, you can’t adopt him.” He went on, “Look at his hair, he’s a redhead, we are all blond and blue eyed, Dah.” That really wasn’t my decision making model.
I showed him another boy about a month later, and he said “He’s one of us, He looks just like Steven, He’s OK.” This one had brown hair. Kids have their own ways of seeing ties and commonality, and I don’t think it is about logic. John