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Being involved with adoptionblogs.com blogging has been a tremendous learning experience for me. I have been enlightened with other people’s adoption journeys, struggles, beliefs, and everything that comes with adoption. Who would have guessed I would have learned some much by sharing my thoughts, experiences and insight.
Looking within my self and addressing my adoption journey and the issues I have faced along the way has been a great benefit to me. When you’re adopted, it is just that, you do not always stop and think about the entire picture or how things relate. The other adoptees that I know have also been great learning tools when bringing everything together for this blog.
I am still hoping to continue learning about different aspects of adoption and the types of adoption. To learn is to continue growing. Coming into this I did not know a lot about international and open adoption. Now, I can not even begin to share what I have learned.
I have learned being an adoptee, and an adoptive mother is a very different road to travel as the one I have been on as an adoptee. The two roads do run parallel most of the time, in the view of others you are quickly thrown on different sides. I do understand more so now that I have a different insight into adoption.
I would have never guessed the deep division that exists in the adoption community and how it affects adoption as a whole. This has been a huge lesson to learn and not an easy one at times. I am learning (yes, still learning a lot on this one) that some people do not want to see things differently in adoption and sadly, some of them are the ones involved with adoption.
The greatest thing I have learned is that they are a lot of happy (including the adoptees) families built through adoption. Granted, I totally realize there are some people involved in adoption that are unhappy and have not found peace in their journey.
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I am 25 and going through an unplanned pregnancy. I am considering adoption for this child, because I want to provide a life and family for this child that I cannot currently give to it. I would really like to pursue an open adoption, but I also want to know what Adoptee’s have gone through and talk with some if possible.
I will always have a desire to be this baby’s mother and I feel blessed to already have a son, so I know all of the milestones I will miss out on. But I am not married and I don’t believe marrying the father of this child is a good choice, nor do I think single parenting another child is a good choice. I think another family can offer this child what I cannot but this is still the most heart wrenching experience to even consider. I do not love my baby any less, and in fact I am only considering adoption becasue I want what is absolutely best for this child and I believe what is best is a loving and healthy home with a happily married couple.
I would have liked to talk with Abby, who wrote these blogs, but I see she hasn’t written in a year… maybe someone will reply.