I heard the words of my birth mother telling me about my birth father but I did not hear them. Were these words meant for me?

I did not ask about my birth father when I made contact with my birth mother. Why? I do know I was not interested in the least. First, she stated she did not want to talk about him. I was like whatever. Later, she did decide to tell me about him.

Abby, your father (not my father)…. I added, “You mean my birth father.” She replies, “Sorry” and continues, he is not a nice person. He has some serious problems that you do not need to be part of. You do not want him around your children especially your daughters. (At this point I just remember feeling sick and scared to think about what she was trying to tell me.)

I reply, “What are you trying to say?” She continues. “He is a very sick person, mentally and has been in psychiatric hospitals. You have more than 14 half siblings I believe with different mothers. I am not sure what they have lived through or what kind of people they are now.

I am getting a little annoyed by now stating to her, “Just tell me what you are trying to say.” She blurts out, “He hurts children.” I say, “Meaning….” She says, “He mess with them sexually.” At this point I am dazed and only hear Blah, blah, blah……… During this time she could have told me that he was an axe murderer but I don’t remember.

When I got it together thought wise, she was still talking about him where he has lived, his family, etc. At this point she could have told me anything like he had three heads and was part alien and it did not matter, I had already checked out of the conversation. In my mind nothing could be worse than what she told me. After a time of her continued talking I had to block up what she just told me so I could get through the phone call.

Continued..............

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