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Yes, we all have trauma and demons that we have been dealt but it is how we deal with them. I am no different than others, I have my own demons that I still struggle with but I choose not to let my demons control me and the outcome of my life.

We all have demons that we face (even the people that are not adopted) and they may not have a thing to do with being adopted. People are haunted by relationships, lack of money, not being accepted, loss of loved ones, abuse, loneliness, fear of the unknown, struggling with their weight, rejection, and the list can go on and on. It is up to us if we let the demons control our lives.

I believe as adoptive parents we have to give our children unconditional love and support. Understand that every child will deal with being adopted differently. If a time comes that the child does not seem to want to deal or wants to ignore the fact that they are adopted, I personally feel that can be the way the child is coping. Maybe at this point in their life the thought of being rejected by a birth mother is just too much. This for me was a very personal journey and something that I had to find peace with. I am not saying talking to your child and supporting them is not helpful. Just try and be understanding if they should journey at times without you. They know you are there if they need you. An adopted child is no different they need to know that there is a safe place to fall if they need to.

Yes, there has been a lot of change in people’s beliefs and views of adoption but as raising adopted children I also know we have much to teach the public about adoption. Adoptive parents and even birth families still struggle with society’s negative views.