While reading Jenna’s blog; Handling Uncomfortable Conversations, it got me to thinking as an adoptee and adoptive mother. While I was commenting on her blog I was thinking of conversations I have from two very different viewpoints. I found myself realizing that I am very different when handling the conversations that tend to put adoption and triad members in a negative light very differently.

One area I am blunt, take nothing, put you in your place without a thought, pop off a come back and defend like nobody business. The second area you would probably say I am the opposite I try to explain things, reserved in what I say and how I say it, wanting to become distant, etc. Funny how I never saw this until reading Jenna’s blog and by reading a blog I learned something about myself.

To me it seems so strange to be so totally different when faced with round about the same type of issues. How can I be so different about adoption issues? It is because I come to adoption from two very different sides.

As an adoptee if you speak up when in a conversation when someone is going off in anyway about adoption you need to be prepared to answer a whole host of personal questions. Which can get your blood boiling when you hear personal questions like: Why did your “real” parents not want you? What is it like not to be raised by your “real” parents? What are your “real” parents like? These are just a few I have heard. You can even try to talk to the person about adoption in general but she still only want to hear all of all personal stuff (the worse the better they like it). Why would I want to share my personal details with someone that is like this?

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