It is strange that others cannot understand how a person loves a child or even an adult, without that person carrying part of their DNA.

Yes, our society has changed somewhat on adoption but there is still a lot of miss information and prejudice.

People cannot believe that there are no differences with my bio daughter and my other adopted children. I had one person ask me, “If I could only save one of my children, would I save my bio daughter.” I was asked this when the Russian school a few years ago was held hostage and the kidnappers made mothers choose between their children. At first I was very upset for a couple of reasons. First, because the person asking was a friend and the other reason would that the question be asked to a parent that did not have an adopted child. I responded, “I cannot believe you would ask me that question.” She apologized and dropped it. I could not stop thinking about her questions (okay I was obsessed). My other friend told me that my friend did not mean to upset me. She loves my children, but has not been exposed to adoption. I realized I was sensitive to the question (maybe reacted without thinking first) and I needed to be open, try to answer questions from someone that was truly trying to understand adoption. I approached her to answer her question, apologized and try to help her see adoption in a different way. I cannot say how I would react in that situation. Thank God I have never had to face that. I do not see how the children being adopted and bio child would really matter. A mother is going to have agony to have to choose over any of her children. The only thing I could say for sure was that if one of my children was out of harms way, I would not stop to get my other children out of harms way.

Continued........