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My opinion is adoption may have affected her life along with some heartache, but she created her own misery because she continued to hold on to the pain and it became her life. That was her choice not her birth parents or adoptive parents. So, the reality is there will also be adoptees that have pain and major issues with being adopted because of bad parenting not adoption it’s self.

Good adoption is something you do not hear so much about. Maybe it is just viewed as a happy normal childhood and you just happen to be adopted. If we are happy we do not go searching why we are happy, we just want to be happy. I have never really thought about my adoption being good it was just what it was. I was happy, loved, safe, and had a happy normal childhood, so I guess I had a good adoption. It is funny when we are happy we had a happy normal childhood, it does not have anything to do with adoption. It is just how you came to where you are. Now, if you had a painful childhood, and you happen to be adopted, then it becomes all about the being adopted.

We all have different needs, thoughts, experiences and feelings about being adopted. As a child I had to have attention and would demand it (not in a negative way) I was always in the middle of everything and was constantly getting my attention by climbing into laps, if someone was outside working in the yard, I was right behind them. My sister was the opposite; she was quiet, stayed to herself and just kind of went along, but just not jumping in. So, even though we lived in the same house raised together, adoption has different effects on us and we have different thoughts. So, every adoption, every adoptee, every adoptive parent will be different in some way.