This journey can bring to the surface some thoughts and feelings that may have not been felt in the past. Along with the pregnancy hormones and then trying to process these feelings can be a lot to deal with.

This is written from the point of view of an adopted mother to be.

When you learn that you are expecting a baby, there are so many emotions that you may feel and then, on top of that, the feelings about your own birth and adoption begin to surface. Boy, these are not the emotions that you think about when you learn that you are pregnant. A few weeks along the way I had found myself thinking about what my birth mother experienced and thought while pregnant with me. Did she know from the beginning that she was going to give me up? Did she dread or feel sad about being pregnant with me? Was she thinking about the baby she was carrying, or thinking how she would get out of this situation?

On the day I first felt my unborn baby move it was so amazing. Then to think my birth mother had felt that while pregnant with me. It was mind blowing that after feeling your child move that a mother could part with her child. The thought of the future with the baby that I was carrying was so powerful. It was so hard to think about my birth mother not being close or attached to me as an unborn baby. Was my birth mother thinking the normal motherly thoughts, or was she dealing with all the bad choices that she had made in her life that led her to this place in time to give up her baby? My pregnancy brought out so many thoughts and emotions that I had not expected when I came into motherhood.

Maybe this is just a normal pregnancy feeling or an extreme feeling from an adoptee, I do not know. Maybe it has a lot to do the maternal feelings that your experience while pregnant.

The journey of this adoptee becoming a mother and dealing with her feelings will continue, so check back.


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