Comments on: Adoption Consuming Adoptees http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-consuming-adoptees Provides information, resources, and thoughts concerning adoptees and their journey of adoption. Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:10:30 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: sassyadoptee http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-consuming-adoptees/comment-page-1#comment-225 sassyadoptee Mon, 20 Aug 2007 22:53:49 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adoption-consuming-adoptees#comment-225 I think what Abby is saying that we should connect with all sorts of people. If you have children, then find other mothers or fathers that share your views. If you are a scrapbooker, then find a class and make friends that way. We all need to be well rounded. Having different kinds of friends help us stay that way. I think what Abby is saying that we should connect with all sorts of people. If you have children, then find other mothers or fathers that share your views. If you are a scrapbooker, then find a class and make friends that way. We all need to be well rounded. Having different kinds of friends help us stay that way.

]]> By: 12345 http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-consuming-adoptees/comment-page-1#comment-224 12345 Mon, 20 Aug 2007 00:05:28 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adoption-consuming-adoptees#comment-224 I do feel that all of my problems in life had to be with being adopted i dont feel i would have stuggled so much in life if i hadnt been adopted whats weird about my situation is i never knew my birthmom till i was 26 compared to alot of people out there i never felt liked i belonged with my adoptive parents they treated me like a social reject they neglected me i think whats weird is my adoptive parents neglected me not my birthparents i never knew them I do feel that all of my problems in life had to be with being adopted i dont feel i would have stuggled so much in life if i hadnt been adopted whats weird about my situation is i never knew my birthmom till i was 26 compared to alot of people out there i never felt liked i belonged with my adoptive parents they treated me like a social reject they neglected me i think whats weird is my adoptive parents neglected me not my birthparents i never knew them

]]> By: 12345 http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-consuming-adoptees/comment-page-1#comment-223 12345 Mon, 20 Aug 2007 00:01:00 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adoption-consuming-adoptees#comment-223 I am adopted and i felt i was treated diffrent compared to people that where not adopted i do feel alot of my problems where do to being adopted and i dont feel at 36 years old people are going to make me see this any difrrently I am adopted and i felt i was treated diffrent compared to people that where not adopted i do feel alot of my problems where do to being adopted and i dont feel at 36 years old people are going to make me see this any difrrently

]]> By: oceanus http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adoption-consuming-adoptees/comment-page-1#comment-222 oceanus Sat, 18 Aug 2007 03:55:10 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adoption-consuming-adoptees#comment-222 Hi there...<br /> <br /> I understand what you mean when describing that being adopted doesn't consume you rather it's part of your life history.....I agree and on the other hand, yes I think it's important to interact with other adoptees about certain life issues....cause adoptees can relate and validate. Those not affected by adoption can try to understand, but can't.... it's like any other experience.... <br /> <br /> Research shows that adoption does impact one's life in every way possible. How we view the world, interact with others, etc. I say this because I am a reunited adoptee and also because I work as a clinical psychotherapist specializing in post-adoption, adoption reunion counselling/coaching....and I have seen professionally and experienced personally. Yes, I can relate to others re: other issues, like everyone else can....however adoption does add another element of complexity to the equation. It comes down to our identity and the search for our roots. As adoptees, whether we are aware of it or no, we filter our world through abandonment and/or rejection.... I have not met one adoptee yet that doesn't no matter how open adoptive families are in discussing feelings surrounding one's adoption....needless to say adoption is very complex and multi-faceted...there are many other reasons......<br /> <br /> A few thoughts...... Hi there…

I understand what you mean when describing that being adopted doesn’t consume you rather it’s part of your life history…..I agree and on the other hand, yes I think it’s important to interact with other adoptees about certain life issues….cause adoptees can relate and validate. Those not affected by adoption can try to understand, but can’t…. it’s like any other experience….

Research shows that adoption does impact one’s life in every way possible. How we view the world, interact with others, etc. I say this because I am a reunited adoptee and also because I work as a clinical psychotherapist specializing in post-adoption, adoption reunion counselling/coaching….and I have seen professionally and experienced personally. Yes, I can relate to others re: other issues, like everyone else can….however adoption does add another element of complexity to the equation. It comes down to our identity and the search for our roots. As adoptees, whether we are aware of it or no, we filter our world through abandonment and/or rejection…. I have not met one adoptee yet that doesn’t no matter how open adoptive families are in discussing feelings surrounding one’s adoption….needless to say adoption is very complex and multi-faceted…there are many other reasons……

A few thoughts……

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