When looking into the mirror one day you do not recognize the person you are looking at. Some adoptees begin talking about feelings of not knowing who they are, lost and disconnected, etc. Personally I think society looks for reasons to place blame when things do not go as planned. I am always amazed to hear all the things adoption is blamed for. When the truth is that other (meaning not adoptees) people have the same issues, struggles or challenges that adoptees face.

This makes you stop and think could this just be a part of life and does not necessarily have much, if anything, to do with being adopted. I am not saying there are not things and issues that are definitely there because of being adopted. The question is how much of it has to do with only being adopted. There are so many things that impact our lives and the decisions we make. The way we were parented, where we live, our jobs, the relationships we have all have a huge impact on us and our lives.

A large majority of people have looked into the mirror and did not recognize the person or the persons they have become, or where they are at in the moment of life. I cannot even begin to count how many wives and mothers that have made references to one day realizing that they lost the person they once were, or they and others only see them as a wife or mother not the person they once use to be.

In life’s journey it is easy to get off course when we get a curve ball thrown at us. Before we know it, we are caught up in things, and then we do not know how we got there. I have found that the majority of people look at adoptees’ lives for how adoption impacted every part of the lives and choices.

continued....Adoption - the Problem or Just Part of Life....

More reading:

The Faces of Adoptees

Why Did You End Up With Good Adoptive Parents?

Adoption, Adoptees and Reality