When I read Deb Donatti’s “Adoption Confusion and Proposed Baby Selling, Hits Way Too Close To Home!” it got me to thinking of my thoughts and ideas of adoption as a young child. I think children, especially young children come up with their own way or ideas to process the adoption “thing” in their own way. Truly it probably does not have much to do with what our parents tell us.

When I was around six years old, I thought, and imagined my adoption played out like this. My parents went to some big baby place like a store, picked me out, brought (yes, with money) me and took me home. While my parents did try to explain that they did not buy me that they had to pay money for things that concerned me were two different things. As a young child in my mind they had used money to get me. This meant that they paid for me.

I remember a conversation with my sister, myself and our cousin about being adopted since we all were. The talk turned to money and how much we thought our parents paid for us. Nobody had ever said or replied that we were brought, that is just how at that age we viewed it.

Why do some children see adoption differently than others? It is just their way to deal or process the adoption “thing” or being adopted. Truly it does not have lasting impressions on how the child will view his or her adoption or even adoption as a whole. In a couple of years the adoptees will see or feel adoption in a whole different light. Children come up with their own ideas and images to make sense of their adoption. It does not mean it is something they truly believe or will carry with them the rest of their lives.

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More reading:

Young Adoptee’s Fantasy of Birth Parents

Adoptee Feeling the Same Loss as a Baby or Child