Comments on: Adopting and Why?? http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why Provides information, resources, and thoughts concerning adoptees and their journey of adoption. Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:10:30 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why/comment-page-1#comment-148 AdoptionBlogs Editor Sun, 19 Aug 2007 04:54:03 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adopting-and-why#comment-148 Adopting a child so that your kid can have a playmate? That sounds pretty much like slavery to me. <br /> That twit needs to be told to GET A PUPPY! Adopting a child so that your kid can have a playmate? That sounds pretty much like slavery to me.
That twit needs to be told to GET A PUPPY!

]]> By: Faith Allen http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why/comment-page-1#comment-147 Faith Allen Sun, 19 Aug 2007 00:56:10 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adopting-and-why#comment-147 I know people who chose to add a second child through birth (no relation to adoption) so that child #1 could have a sibling. Big mistake -- the boys don't get along at all. <br /> <br /> - Faith I know people who chose to add a second child through birth (no relation to adoption) so that child #1 could have a sibling. Big mistake — the boys don’t get along at all.

- Faith

]]> By: KatjaMichelle http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why/comment-page-1#comment-146 KatjaMichelle Sat, 18 Aug 2007 19:07:40 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adopting-and-why#comment-146 So what happens when they adopt and their new child doesn't get along with his/her new sibling? What if new child doesn't want to be that childs playmate? Do they "give the kid back"? adopt a third? Uh I feel sick to my stomach So what happens when they adopt and their new child doesn’t get along with his/her new sibling? What if new child doesn’t want to be that childs playmate? Do they “give the kid back”? adopt a third? Uh I feel sick to my stomach

]]> By: jpdakota43 http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why/comment-page-1#comment-145 jpdakota43 Sat, 18 Aug 2007 14:43:55 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adopting-and-why#comment-145 There's another reason out there that I am not terribly comfortable with. I'm sure you've heard it. There are people who adopt to have somebody who will take care of them when they get old. While I understand that it is a frightening thing to think about being elderly and alone, I don't think it's a good reason to adopt a child. I try not to be judgmental about people's reasons for adopting, I am concerned for children who are adopted with unfair expectations attached. There’s another reason out there that I am not terribly comfortable with. I’m sure you’ve heard it. There are people who adopt to have somebody who will take care of them when they get old. While I understand that it is a frightening thing to think about being elderly and alone, I don’t think it’s a good reason to adopt a child. I try not to be judgmental about people’s reasons for adopting, I am concerned for children who are adopted with unfair expectations attached.

]]> By: Faith Allen http://adoptee.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/adopting-and-why/comment-page-1#comment-144 Faith Allen Sat, 18 Aug 2007 12:41:20 +0000 http://adoptee.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/17/adopting-and-why#comment-144 I agree. This is one reason we chose not to adopt again. At first, I really wanted to parent a second child. However as my son left the diaper stage and parenting got a little easier, my motivation to adopt again was more about adding a sibling that it was about adding a child to love. I decided that was not a good enough reason to ask another woman to entrust her child with my family. <br /> <br /> While there are many good reasons to add a child to your family, I believe that "because I really WANT to parent another child" needs to make the list. If it does not, then I would reconsider whether or not adopting again is a good idea.<br /> <br /> Good post!<br /> <br /> - Faith I agree. This is one reason we chose not to adopt again. At first, I really wanted to parent a second child. However as my son left the diaper stage and parenting got a little easier, my motivation to adopt again was more about adding a sibling that it was about adding a child to love. I decided that was not a good enough reason to ask another woman to entrust her child with my family.

While there are many good reasons to add a child to your family, I believe that “because I really WANT to parent another child” needs to make the list. If it does not, then I would reconsider whether or not adopting again is a good idea.

Good post!

- Faith

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