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I have to believe that I will know when the time is right and when my daughter can deal with the horrible facts that she will face. So, I cannot say I will give her the information when she turns 18 years old; she needs to be grounded with herself and in life to deal with the facts.

Even if adoptees are faced with dark secrets or horrible facts concerning their past, or how they came to be, they still have the right to know of their past. No one has the right, to decide what is best for someone else.

The big thing for adoptees in their search for information is not to go in expecting a happy story, go expecting to hear some difficult things. This way you have somewhat prepared yourself to hear some difficult information, hopefully you’ll not be faced with anything difficult, you will be so happy and relieved with what you find out.

Not every story has a happy ending and not every story has an unhappy ending. Just to know the truth can be bring peace of mind. So, if one feels they want to know more about their beginning then they should start their journey to find out, being prepared for what may come and hoping for the best to happen.

I do believe this is easily for adoptive parents to talk about now than in the past and deal with the adopted children going on this journey. Adopted in the past has something that just was not talked about openly, so that leads to so many issues for everyone to struggle with.

Take your time on your journey to find out your birth and adoption information. If you start to feel overwhelmed take a step back, catch your breath and continue when you feel ready.