Reality is that a lot of adoptees will grow up in transracial homes, different ethic siblings, or themselves being a mixed race. I have been educating myself concerning adoptees facing these challenges. There will be things that come up occasional (maybe a lot) concerning differences in a transracial family.

Some adoptive parents know from the “get go” that they want to adopt children of another race, while others are open to the idea and then there are a few of us that stumbles into it or it just works out that way.

I was one of the stumbling ones. I never thought of race when I looked at one of my toddlers that I adopted. We were blessed to foster a baby girl that we ended up adopting. When we went to sign our adoption placement papers the subject came up that they did not know her biological father. The person on her birth certificate was in a different state when she was conceived. We knew this and were okay with it. We also had learned biological mom was a “working girl”. They did drop a bomb on us right at the end. They stated, “It is belief her biological father was biological mom’s pimp and he is black.”

The bomb was that this had never crossed our minds or be insinuated. This baby girl is very light complected, so for us it never came up. Yes, we knew anything was a possibility with “mom’s work”. For them to say my daughter looked like him and the mom said it could be true was strange.

They were concerned that this would change things for us but she was already our daughter even if she turned out to be part green alien. That day we started the adoption process on our baby girl. It was hurtful that they did not trust our love and commitment to our daughter to share the information earlier.

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More reading:

Issues of Race in Adoption

The most invested parent

Protecting Adoptees Past Information