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Getting stuck or hung up on being adopted is the worse thing for an adoptee. Allow yourself to go through all the different emotions that one may feel, but not be consumed by them. Do not allow what other people say or think about adoption affect your feelings concerning being an adoptee. So many people talk before thinking about what they are saying or how it will affect others. The images of adoption and the people that are involved with it are not always portrayed in a positive light in this life. It is up to each one of us to look for understanding of our adoption, and to search for peace in the process. Allow yourself to feel grief, loss, maybe even abandonment, sadness, maybe even anger and other feelings without feeling guilty. Hopefully feeling these emotions will be a short step on your journey of dealing with your adoption. I know it can be hard for some birth mother to hear that is possible that the child that they give up feels for a brief time a feeling of abandonment. I felt this way for around a month, not too long but it allowed me to deal with that aspect of adoption and then move past it.
The truth is there is not a perfect way that will work for everyone to deal with being adopted or guide them on their journey. You have to find your own way and realize when something is not helping try something else. If you find yourself stuck in an area of your adoption that you cannot seem to get past or dealing with certain emotions that are too overwhelming, then you made need to look into some counseling to help you move beyond. The key is to allow oneself to move into a happy life without dragging along some many unresolved issues about being adopted and leaving behind some unneeded baggage.


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