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The truth is just that, with it you have to accept the things you have no control over. Yes, this can be difficult for one to accept and find peace with, but it is what it is and everyone deserves to know the truth about their life from the beginning.

Dealing and accepting your adoption can be a lengthy journey that changes from time to time. One person may need the support of counseling where another may find peace much easier. The thing to remember is there is not a wrong or a right way for one to feel or to deal with being adopted. You have to find something that works for you. I have been asked a lot how I dealt with being adopted and how I found peace with it. I have really thought about it and do not really know how I found peace. I think in time it was something that just happened. I know that I had the normal thoughts, and feelings about being adopted. I did write about things in a journal when I was young and that seemed to help getting my feelings out. I have never felt comfortable talking about it with my parents. When I did talk to them about adoption it was not the serious stuff or in great detail. As an adult I have talked with my dad about it and even about my birth family just not in great details. It was not anything my parents said or did that made me feel this way, I just did. I guess the reason is I do not want to hurt them in any way and it would kill me if I hurt my dad. I made some friends growing up that were adopted, so talking with them helped some and allowed me to work through my feelings.

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