We never known what life will bring at each corner. I wrote about the feeling of being in a hurricane. I had started to find calmer waters and was actually starting to feel like I could get through this. I had a reader (John) leave me a comment that I really needed and that helped me see things from a different light. It did make me smile, which I needed.

With my half brother’s death and trying to come to terms with it was... more

Is adopting because of your faith a valued reason to choose to parent a child through adoption? While I do not like to question peoples religious faith or beliefs but adding adoption to the element makes me a little uneasy.

Does an the adoptive parent adopting due to their faith look at the difficulties of parenting adopted children or do they just believe their faith will take care of things? While I am a person of faith and believe in God, I am not sure it should be the reason a person decides to adopt a child. I believe that I was adopted into the right family and the children... more

There are so many things in life that we have to face that we want to run away from. To face the things we cannot change and try to make sense of them can leave you at a complete loss. Sometimes we find ourselves hoping against all hope that things will change even if we know the chance of that happening is very small.

There are some things that are so truly painful that we choose not to see things as they are. Causing some of us to ignore and refuse to see the truth because the truth is too ugly. The truth is like having the air crushed out of you. I finally have been forced... more

Adoption & Young Adoptees

I came up with an image of my parents strolling through some large place that babies where kept that were up for adoption all on my own. In my mind the moment they saw me I was their baby and they picked me out of all the other babies. In all honesty, it is the farthest thing from the truth. In that point in time, I needed to feel that my parents chose me over all else maybe to me that meant they loved me more than anything else.

I cannot even begin to tell... more

When I read Deb Donatti’s “Adoption Confusion and Proposed Baby Selling, Hits Way Too Close To Home!” it got me to thinking of my thoughts and ideas of adoption as a young child. I think children, especially young children come up with their own way or ideas to process the adoption “thing” in their own way. Truly it probably does not have much to do with what our parents tell us. When I was around six years old, I thought, and imagined my adoption played out like this. My parents... more

I wanted to share my four things about adoption from the view point of an adoptee. Yes, I am following behind Mary Owlhaven’s from the Ethiopia Adoption Blog post “Four things about adoption” I’m just late to the event.

Four things I thought about adoption when I was a child

That people (general public) did not understand adoption and were quite cruel at times when they talked about adoption or had questions.

That... more

With things being so crazy around here, and dealing with trouble sleeping, I read a book which I do not get the opportunity to do often. What was truly great was that it was a book on adoption and it is in my opinion, a true insight of a life of an adoptee. It is a very well written book with the amazing actual view of most adoptions from the view of the adoptee and the adoptive family. This book is about an adoptee that is content with being adopted and the relationships built through adoption.

The book covered the perspective of the adoptees, adoptive parents and other adoptive family... more

I was out of town so I was unable to do my Love Thursday. I still wanted to share it, so it is a couple of days late.

I have been blessed with having an angel looking out for me in my life. My Aunt (adoptive) O was watching out of me long before I knew. She is the reason I ended up with my parents. She was aware of the situation that my birth mother was in, and that CPS was about to get involved. She knew my parents had been hoping and looking to adopt for some time.

On my wedding day, my Aunt O asked, “If she could tell me something about my adoption.” I responded,... more

The question of how to talk with your children about your adoption has been asked. Well, this is something every adoptee probably has their idea about how it should be done.

If your children are unaware of your adoption, then start with explaining adoption in general, then explain that you were adopted. My personal opinion is do not sit down one day and unleash your whole life adoptive story to your children. The whole idea of adoption may take them some time to process. This can also allow them time to think about how you being adopted affects them and gives them the opportunity... more

At this time, the feeling of being at sea and in the middle of a hurricane probably describes how my life is. The intense force of everything in life coming at you from all different sides makes keeping your head above the water rather difficult at times. Being overwhelmed does not even begin to describe how I am feeling.

My birth mother and birth sister decided that they now want to meet and talk about things. The whole idea of this makes me queasy and afraid to open myself up to more pain. They will probably... more