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Most mothers would give their own life to protect their children whether they are adopted are not. She asked, “If something happened to you while you were protecting your little ones, how do you think L (my bio daughter) would feel?” I believe that she would not question what I did (maybe what happened) and that she would know I did what I had to as a mother. She respond, “You really do not see or feel a difference between your children.” I know that if my bio daughter and young adopted daughter were in the street fixing to be hit by a car, I would get them out of the way or be hit myself. I asked, “You have three daughters and one is mentally retarded that will... more

It is strange that others cannot understand how a person loves a child or even an adult, without that person carrying part of their DNA.

Yes, our society has changed somewhat on adoption but there is still a lot of miss information and prejudice.

People cannot believe that there are no differences with my bio daughter and my other adopted children. I had one person ask me, “If I could only save one of my children, would I save my bio daughter.” I was asked this when the Russian school a few years ago was held hostage and the kidnappers made mothers choose between their children. At first I was very upset for a couple of reasons. First, because the person asking was a friend... more

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Yes, we all have trauma and demons that we have been dealt but it is how we deal with them. I am no different than others, I have my own demons that I still struggle with but I choose not to let my demons control me and the outcome of my life.

We all have demons that we face (even the people that are not adopted) and they may not have a thing to do with being adopted. People are haunted by relationships, lack of money, not being accepted, loss of loved ones, abuse, loneliness, fear of the unknown, struggling with their weight, rejection, and the list can go on and on. It is up to us if we let the demons control our lives.

I believe as adoptive parents... more

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As a teenager, I did not talk about being adopted or want to talk about it. During this time in my life I just pushed it out of my mind, maybe too much to deal with while going through the horrible teenage stage of life. I am not saying it did not creep in occasionally but for the most part I chose not to deal with it. At this point in my life I was not emotional able to be with it.

As a young adult, adoption had a large impact on my life. I knew that I was given a wonderful chance through adoption and it was up to me how I chose to let it impact me. I wanted... more

It will impact your life in a number of different ways. Some allow it to impact their life way too much and that is all their life is about.

It does impact you as a child how you see yourself and how others see you. You know that you are different than other children. You have people that have a biological tie to you in this world, and you do not know a thing about them. You wonder what could make a mother not want or love her child. As a child I remember thinking what caused or what had I done for my birth mother not to love me. In my young mind, if she loved me she would want me and not have given me away. Then add on top of my feelings the views and attitude from the... more

I may have been adopted, but it is not who I am. I am more than that, maybe by personal choice, because I was adopted by parents that loved me or maybe both. Not every adopted child is that lucky. Reality is there are a number of bad, uncaring, and even abusive parents in this world, both adoptive and biological parents.

Being adopted changed things for me and in my life, but not life, the child I was or the adult that I have become. Kind of sounds silly?? Yes, I was different than most children in my school, I had questions, I was confused but at the end of the day I was still the same kid brushing my teeth staring back at myself. I even had thoughts and issues to work through... more

You would be surprised at how many times I’ve been asked this question. Occasionally by people that I am not close to (which is another whole subject in itself). I hate being asked this question for a lot of reasons. First, my adoptive mom and dad are my real parents. What exactly does” real parents” mean? What, are my adoptive parents pretend, or just filling in? To me this is a sad way the general public views adoption and the people that are involved in adoption.

To me my real parents are the ones that were there when I was sick as a child, the ones to help me buy my first car, the ones to take me to church, the ones who taught me love and how to be loved, they... more

My name is Abby. I was adopted as a baby with my older sister. It has been over 30 years since that life changing decision my parents made to adopt. I feel blessed and honored to call them my parents. I am not saying it was a perfect family or a perfect life. I had a happy childhood and have become a happy adult. Yes, along the road of life we had our ups and downs struggles and learning experiences for us all. I do believe that being adopted you have some different views and challenges. I am not saying that the challenges are exclusive to people that have been adopted.

I look forward to sharing my and others thoughts, experiences, struggles of being adopted. Everyone will have different... more

[Continued from HERE.] 6. I’ve done it … my laundry, that is, by hand, rubbing one bit against the other, working my way around the whooooole thing … a t-shirt that seems not-so-big-becoming the size of an iceberg and equally as hard to manipulate. I have even had to jump out of the river in which I was washing my laundry because a crocodile came around and was on the prowl. Clean clothes suddenly don’t seem so important... more

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