This month has gone by so fast heck…even this year has flown by. Oh, what a year it has been for me. I was given this great opportunity to blog here as an adoptee and I have enjoyed my time. I have met some great people and learned so much from bloggers and readers. The time has come for me to begin another path in my adoption journey of life. This will be my last month sharing my experiences, thoughts, feelings and information as being an adoptee.

A lot of you have been supportive through some very different times in my life or when facing some unpleasant issues that I am... more

Differences of Love with Adopted or Biological Children

I have four children (1 biological and 3 adopted) which I love them all but I do have completely different relationships with them. I have stronger relationships with two of my daughters. This is not something I choose or planned, it just is. Surprise, surprise it is not the baby of the family she is all daddy’s girl along with my son, I am just the filler while daddy is not around. While I know that... more

I have read and heard discussions concerning adoptive parents loving their biological and adopted children differently. After spending a lot of time thinking about this and talking to others about it, I have decided to talk about it. As a parent to both, I was very put off with the subject in the beginning, but I have found myself thinking and talking more about it.

While I do realize that some adoptees are being treated very differently only because they are adopted which is wrong. I do not believe it is as common as some would like us to believe. Personally,... more

When I hear about, or become involved with an adoptive situation where everything revolves around adoption, it bothers me. I guess mainly because I’m an adoptee. I have been around young adoptees and adoptive families were the conversations always seemed to revolve around adoption. There has to be a balance of life, childhood and adoption.

I am not trying to be like everyone else (meaning people not adopted) or not act like I am not adopted in anyway. Adoption is part of my life (a big part) but it is not who I am, nor does it define me or where my life... more

Adoption and the Life Effect to Adoptees

Adoption does impact every part of an adoptees’ life, which I totally believe and understand. That does not mean adoption is the magnet for all that goes wrong in life. There are plenty of people that have the same issues and problems that adoptees have. What is the reason for their problems?

I find it so strange when people relate things that happen in my life to being adopted when I do not see it that way... more

When looking into the mirror one day you do not recognize the person you are looking at. Some adoptees begin talking about feelings of not knowing who they are, lost and disconnected, etc. Personally I think society looks for reasons to place blame when things do not go as planned. I am always amazed to hear all the things adoption is blamed for. When the truth is that other (meaning not adoptees) people have the same issues, struggles or challenges that adoptees face.

This makes you stop and think could this just be a part of life and does not necessarily have... more

[Continued from HERE.] 6. I’ve done it … my laundry, that is, by hand, rubbing one bit against the other, working my way around the whooooole thing … a t-shirt that seems not-so-big-becoming the size of an iceberg and equally as hard to manipulate. I have even had to jump out of the river in which I was washing my laundry because a crocodile came around and was on the prowl. Clean clothes suddenly don’t seem so important... more

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1. Get an idea (light bulb!) but make it fluorescent. If you do only one thing, do this: replace three normal incandescent light bulbs in your house with long-life fluorescent light bulbs (CFL’s.) Take a look HERE for a good comparison (though the prices for the compact fluorescent bulbs has gone down significantly.)... more

Is there an echo in here? I mean, in here, in my head. Or is it out there, in the big wide world. Or both? Maybe I’m having a flashback… or a hot flash… nope, can’t be that, since it’s “that” time of the month. Hmmm. Well, maybe you can tell me what’s going on… I keep having these visions:

It’s the 70’s, Schoolhouse Rock... “Energy … we’re looking to try and find some new kinds of …... more

As some of you may have read in the comments section of Who Knew, this will be my last month blogging.

The truth of the matter is I am just too bloody slow to make this worth my while. I’m one of those writers that will sit and write for three hours (often after a few hours of research or more), edit for another two hours, whittling away, nudging, adding, subtracting, deleting, inserting, switch-a-rooing, cut-and-pasting... more