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In my heart I knew she was meant to be. My husband and I planned on the possibility of me not surviving the birth of my daughter. So, I was faced very day with the emotions of planning my funeral arrangements, how I wanted my daughter raised, who would help my husband raise my daughter, the thought of never seeing my beloved daughter’s face, so many more thoughts and arrangements for me to deal with. The delivery room was filled with doctors, specialist, emergency personal around 15 – 20. Everyone started talking in their medical terms while rushing around the room, bringing at the defibrialtors beside my bed and preparing them. It really sent home at that moment... more

Both need to be prepared and willing for a reunion, contact or a relationship. In the beginning other birth family members can only make things more difficult and overwhelming to the adoptee when they become involved too fast or push themselves into an adoptee’s life. Timing is everything when birth mother and birth family decide to pop into the adoptee’s life. If the adoptee is going through a important event in their life, like marriage, pregnancy, birth of a child, divorce, death of adoptive parent and other life events, it may not the best time to establish contact. An adoptee needs to be in a place that they can emotionally deal with this and time to become comfortable with it.

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1. You are lucky.

2. If she loved you, she would not have given you away.

3. You should not be sad or mad.

4. You are special because you are adopted.

5. You are chosen.

6. You have no respect for your adoptive parents.

7. Why don’t you search for your birth parents?

8. Forget it and get on with your life.

9. What’s it like to be adopted?

10. What do you hope to find by looking for your birth mother?

Well meaning people can say some of the most thoughtless things, without thinking about what they are saying. While others cannot seem to stay out of personal things and feel the need to give you their advice even... more

So much can affect how a child deals with being adopted. I believe that the adoptive parents have the greatest impact on this.

As the adoptive parents, you set the foundation of your child’s journey. Wording can be everything. Telling a child the reason that their birth mother gave them up was because it was an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy, may cause negative feelings. Yes, this is probably a pretty common reason, which I do understand. What a child may hear is that they were unwanted which might also mean unloved to that child. I do not believe most adoptive parents want their children thinking this of their birth parents, they are trying for the most part to be honest... more

I know I am late with My Love Thursday but I was unable to post last night because of the system. I still wanted to share, so I am posting a day late, sorry.

Oh, how one person had such an effect on my life and still does. I have learned so unbelievably much from this person. I know I can face just about anything with him standing beside me. I believe in myself, and I know that I can accomplish what I set my mind to, because he believes in me.

When I have faced the dark valleys of life, I knew I was not alone. When my husband lay in an ICU hospital bed and I had to call in his family because they did not believe he would make it. A couple of days... more

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Most mothers would give their own life to protect their children whether they are adopted are not. She asked, “If something happened to you while you were protecting your little ones, how do you think L (my bio daughter) would feel?” I believe that she would not question what I did (maybe what happened) and that she would know I did what I had to as a mother. She respond, “You really do not see or feel a difference between your children.” I know that if my bio daughter and young adopted daughter were in the street fixing to be hit by a car, I would get them out of the way or be hit myself. I asked, “You have three daughters and one is mentally retarded that will... more

It is strange that others cannot understand how a person loves a child or even an adult, without that person carrying part of their DNA.

Yes, our society has changed somewhat on adoption but there is still a lot of miss information and prejudice.

People cannot believe that there are no differences with my bio daughter and my other adopted children. I had one person ask me, “If I could only save one of my children, would I save my bio daughter.” I was asked this when the Russian school a few years ago was held hostage and the kidnappers made mothers choose between their children. At first I was very upset for a couple of reasons. First, because the person asking was a friend... more

My name is Abby. I was adopted as a baby with my older sister. It has been over 30 years since that life changing decision my parents made to adopt. I feel blessed and honored to call them my parents. I am not saying it was a perfect family or a perfect life. I had a happy childhood and have become a happy adult. Yes, along the road of life we had our ups and downs struggles and learning experiences for us all. I do believe that being adopted you have some different views and challenges. I am not saying that the challenges are exclusive to people that have been adopted.

I look forward to sharing my and others thoughts, experiences, struggles of being adopted. Everyone will have different... more

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And now, for the final five countdown to the Number 1 Reason I am Happy I Was Adopted:

Number 5:

Whether war orphans in Sudan or parents whose children were abducted by the LRA in Uganda, having been an "orphan" for a bit after birth and being raised by parents that were not my birth parents often endeared me to those with whom I was working. It created common ground and helped me to earn... more

In a ever-so-slight (and not nearly as funny) homage to the David Letterman Top Ten list, I offer you today my Top 10 Reasons Why I Am Happy (or at least not unhappy) I Was Adopted.

Number 10:

A bargain at any price, I was… um, no, not CHEAP, a BARGAIN! This was good leverage, on occasion, when trying to fanangle some pocket money. Upon parental resistance, I might, given the right circumstances, come out with "but A and G [my sisters] cost at least DOUBLE what I did, not to mention the... more