Reality is that a lot of adoptees will grow up in transracial homes, different ethic siblings, or themselves being a mixed race. I have been educating myself concerning adoptees facing these challenges. There will be things that come up occasional (maybe a lot) concerning differences in a transracial family.

Some adoptive parents know from the “get go” that they want to adopt children of another race, while others are open to the idea and then there are a few of us that stumbles into it or it just works out that way.

I was one of the stumbling ones. I never thought of race when I looked at one of my toddlers that I adopted. We were blessed to foster a baby girl that we... more

There is good and bad in everything in life. When an adoptive parent turns out to not be a great or even a bad parent or an adoption has negative outcomes it seems to lead many people's thoughts and opinions to adoption is negative in general. Some people believe that there are only a selected few adoptees that feel positive towards adoption. That is not necessarily the case.

Granted there are some not so great and even terrible adoptive parents but also there are a huge number of biological parents that also have major problems. The huge differences are that we do not call for doing away with parenting but adoptive parenting is fair game. There is not anything in this world that... more

Adoptee and the Question of “Why

My best friend and I differ on our reviews on that adopted children deserves to know about their entire past the good, bad and ugly. My adopted children come from difficult pasts. One of my adopted children has a horrible past, that as I sit reading her file I cried for her and sick to stomach with the details of her beginning and the pain that she will one day learn. My friend believes I should burn the files and never tell my child the truth.

As an adoptee, I would have felt betrayed deceived if my parents would have keep the truth from me. That is my past... more

Owlhaven's post, “Adoption Loss: talking about the 'why'” made me think about my question of “Why”. She was talking about what to tell adopted children the reason their birth families had chosen adoption for them. I do not know of an adoptee that has not asked or thought numerous times, “Why did my birth parents give me away or even not love me?”

As an adoptee I was told that my birth mother was unable to take care of me so, she wanted my adoptive parent’s to be my mom and dad and take care of me. My parent’s did know more about my birth mother’s life but decided to share more details when... more

When I go to some adoption or adoptee support sites, one of the first things I see is: “How many children have been lost to adoption?” As an adoptee, I am puzzled by this statement. I am not “lost” nor have I ever been “lost”.

I know where I live, who my parents are, and I know all about myself. I know I was lost once as a child when I went in search for my dog that was lost. I wandered into a valley with thick trees (I was raised in the country), got turned around and lost my bearings. I did end up walking for a couple of hours. I ended up finding a country road I knew and I also found my dog. My dad ended up finding me and the dog both. Really this is the only time I ever remember... more

The feelings of rejection can affect adoptees differently. I imagine it depends on a number of different things such as the type and/or length of rejection. The adoptees' personality and the support and love they received will impact how they deal with the rejection. Every person deals and reacts to things in their own way and this is no different.

I blogged about my feelings of rejection by my older sister (birth child) in the posting Adoptee’s Feelings of Rejection. This has impacted my life and me as a person. I do not allow people to get close to me. This does make some people think I am... more

The feeling of rejection can be a common feeling among adoptees. The rejection can come from so many different places and at so many different degrees. Does the rejection affect an adoptee? Yes, any rejection affects people.

You most likely will feel rejected by your birth family at some point that does not mean you will always feel this way. Most adoptees work through these feelings on their own. The rejection for some adoptees goes much deeper and can cause them great pain.

Rejection by society can be everywhere an adoptee turns. The media seems to only talk about the negative aspects of adoptees. Schools can make a child feel different and rejected by their lessons... more

This was on my list of topics to write about his month. Kelly, the foster adopt blogger wrote about this from an adoptive mother’s view this month, so I thought about putting off my post. Since my view is from an adoptee’s view, this just shows two different sides and views from different people involved in adoption.

Nature does a play a large part of a child’s life. Adopted children get their physical traits and medical history from their birth family. Adopted children may also inherit learning disabilities from the birth family. Does nature have the most impact on a child’s outcome in... more

There are things that adoption can teach adoptees about life and so much more. Yes, there are good and bad learning experiences in all areas of life, but today I am talking about the good.

Unconditional love is the greatest thing I believe an adoptee can get from adoption. For me to know that my adoptive parents are there for me no matter what mistakes I make in my life and I know that their unconditional love will always be there for me. The most amazing thing is that these people made a choice and wanted to provide you this unconditional love and make you a part of their family.

Understanding and caring is most important things you learn from being adopted. You learn... more

This is a very common thing for people to say when they find out your children are adopted. I personally have been told this on a number of different times concerning my children. This is a comment I also remember hearing a lot as a child when people found out I was adopted.

As a young child, I never real understood the comment and felt it was a strange thing for people to say. As I got older, it bothered me. If it was not for luck I did not matter. Luck, how did that involve me? I was lucky that I found my lost glove on the bus. So, without luck I did not matter. My other thoughts about this, was something so wrong with me that I was lucky that my adoptive parents took me. ... more