Poverty is an aspect of adoption that some people do not want to face. It is a large factor in adoption throughout the world. Some people think it should not be part of adoption without addressing the problem that so many families struggle with.

Even in the United States, poverty is a part of the adoption scene. Look at our foster care system. It is full for children that have lived with poverty, neglect, and abuse. We have resources to help people find their way out of poverty if they choose to in this country.

Other countries do not have the resources to assist families, leaving children vulnerable. The poverty that other countries face we cannot even begin to imagine.... more

We must realize that adoption is not a clearly painted picture. The reality is that there are several different pictures of adoption and the issues or reasons are not always cut and dry. One major thing is that some people do not stop and realize what kind of lives some adoptees would have faced without being adopted.

Yes, I do understand the some birth mothers have given up a child and then get to a point that they could have parented the child. There are also birth mothers that do not fit into that category. It could be because of their choices in life or things that are beyond their control.

There are older children, sibling groups and children... more

Is the amount of monies involved in adoption a concern? Yes, without a doubt. The monies concerns involve all members in the adoption arena. No one should be making large profits on a child or baby needing a family.

An adoptee friend’s birth mother had her college paid for by the adoptive parents. To my friend she felt like her birth mother gave her away for a college education. The adoptive parents did not do this in a bad way. They had money and wanted to help the birth mother of the child to have a better life.

The government controlling and handling all adoption concerns me for several reasons. Let’s look at our foster care system. It is in shambles, plagued with... more

People through life decide to build theories, paint others to be a certain way because it validates their decisions in their lives. When it comes to light that it is not always that way, then anger comes up while being defensive. We all have choices and decisions in life that we make that are our responsibility.

There seems to be some major confusion about the post “Expectations of an Adoptee”. I referenced a post “Are Adoptees “Lost”?” (that I wrote on 05/25/07) and a birth mother assumed that I was referring to a post that... more

Adoptees should have full access to their birth and adoption records when they turn 18 years old. An adoptee should not have to beg adoption agencies or petition the courts for their own information concerning their past and birth families. Birth parent information should also be provided and leave it up to the birth parents to decide if they want to have a relationship with the child they gave up.

Adoption does not only involve babies. Foster children and other adoptions are also impacted by the laws that govern adoptions. We need to make a point to... more

Adoption is anything but sunshine and lollipops, which I do understand as an adoptee and an adoptive parent. The truth is that adoption reform is needed. I totally understand this and am not against it. Changes in adoption law are needed and I support it when it is a benefit to adoption.

Knowledge is what people need concerning adoption reform. I am not trying to persuade anyone one way or the other. We as people need to decide to get involved with reform or a movement. We need to go in with their eyes wide open. We need to know the truth about things... more

There is a campaign on to do away with the adoption tax credit. I encourage every adoptive parent and other people involved with adoption to fight against this campaign. This country has worked hard getting children adopted and not spending years living in limbo. This adoption tax credit has helped many children find loving and forever families. The campaign against the adoption tax credit does allow for some foster children to benefit by allowing the adoption credit to remain for some foster children. This is a great concern to me. Who and by what standards would decide which foster children benefit from... more

Adoption, its self, is being attacked through sly tactics and without people stating their entire agenda. Adoptive parents are being targeted because they have chosen to adopt a child. Adoptees are being shamed and ridiculed when they support adoption.

How many of us have been blessed with a family through adoption whether you are an adoptee or adoptive parent? This is an individual choice for people to make (which I respect anyone's decision), some people feel comfortable standing up fighting for our and our children's rights.

I do not think anyone involved in adoption is blinded to some changes that need to happen in adoption. Here is the problem, people, authors and... more

Maybe an author writing about her personal beliefs on adoption while calling everyone (more or less) money hungry and she is profiting from adoption while throwing information out as the gospel. Yes, I am talking about the anti-adoption/birthmother author Mirah Riben.

She is not only against infant or international adoptions, she also has “issues” with foster children being adopted. Below is a quote from her webpage (below in the blue box are more of her quotes).

Adoption is intended to be in the best interest of children. It is not in the best interest of the 130,000 thousand children from foster care who can never be reunited with family, nor is it in the best... more

I have heard many triad members state this about an adoptee, “She grew up or turned out to be the person that she would have been if her birth family, or I (referring to birth family member) had raised her.” I find this a very strange remark for a number of reasons.

How can anyone make a statement about how an adoptee would have turned out if she had been raised by someone else? I think this refers heavily on the genetic make up of a person. Parenting is so much more than about one's genetic make up. Children and adults prove this every day.

If children did not need someone to parent them, there would not be the need for more foster homes. If children could just rely... more